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I have this funny friend who keeps saying that being an adult is hard, and to be honest, sometimes I think she is right! I mean, when you become an adult you go through a lot of things in life.
Sometimes we learn from them, sometimes the things we learn gives us an unforgettable experience, and others shape us and help us become better.
Over the years, I have learned a few things through my life experiences that have had a great impact on my life. These lessons have helped me become the person I am today.
I know there are more to come and I am ready, open, and receptive to them all and whatever is waiting around the corner.
So today, I wanted to share them with you too! I'm also hoping you won’t miss an opportunity for a great lesson yourself, and of course, if you like the post, then remember to share it or pin it on Pinterest.
#1. Everything happens for a reason.
We live in a world surrounded by mysteries, sometimes things happen when we least expect them too. We get heartbroken, our loved one dies, we lose our job, get into deep debts, or we get betrayed.
But one thing I have come to believe in is that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes we can see the reason instantly, to short and sometimes we never understand the reason.
So anytime you are going through a rough time, always hold onto the belief that there is always a reason behind it.
#2. Love yourself.
Easier said than done, right? As humans, we tend to think that it’s obvious that we love ourselves and that self-love is automatic, natural, or we were born loving ourselves.
However, what people don't think about is what does self-love actually look like and mean? From my understanding, here is what I know. When you love yourself, you start with
- Accepting who you are, accepting all your flaws,
- Appreciating what you have and your abilities…
- Doing things that you enjoy doing,
- Spending time with the people that make your heart sparkle with love and joy, those who bring positivity into your life.
I realised life is way too short SO put self-love last on the priority list. As a woman, self-love is far more important than anything else – it’s what keeps us going and feeling alive!
So by practising self-love life will start being different in a more positive way.
Also, read;15 Ways to Look After Yourself.
#3. Watch your habits.
Habits are what shape us. Since habits are things we do every day and all the time. With this in mind, then you should understand that habits can build your life up or destroy your life.
Ask yourself “what habits do I need to drop and replace?”
#4. Never bottle up your emotions.
You see, we are unfortunately often surrounded by fake friends and family. And it's really becoming harder and harder to find genuine people that we can actually talk to, especially when we have something we need to let out.
But that doesn’t still mean we need bottle up our emotions… Here is my advice on how to deal with these kinds of situations. When you feel like you are going through a hard time. Try the following solutions, depending on what will fit your personal situation.
- First off, crying for no reason is actually perfectly reasonable, and indeed it’s what makes us human. Crying brings a bit of a relief.
- Secondly, journaling! Keep a journal where you can write down all of your thoughts like how you feel and how you would prefer things to be. I call my journal my silent friend, she is always there to listen and take it all in… so you can get a journal and use it to vent, and it also helps in bringing relief and feeling better.
- You could also seek therapy, these days there are even online therapy systems like better help.com and others where you can chat or video talk with a therapist and let them help you go through it.
- Finally, you could look for one genuine, loyal friend whom you can trust and share and express your emotions with.
So it's up to you to find out what your heart wants at that moment, but my key point to take away today is that you should never bottle up your emotions because if you bottle it up, it will only eat away at you.
#5. Learn to be happy by yourself.
If there is one thing I want to emphasise in this post today is this particular life lesson. Learn to be happy by yourself.
What do I mean exactly?
Train your mind, body and emotions that happiness starts with you … your happiness doesn't need to depend on other people.
This is because sometimes, you see, we tend to think we need people to make us happy or that you need a man to be happy, you need a good job to be happy. Listen to this…
NO, let me say that again, NO. These are just things that come and go and if you place your key of happiness into the hands of somebody else then you are giving them control of your happiness and they can decide when (or when not) to make you happy.
And in short, you lose control of your own joy. Key take away is to just dive deep into happiness by understanding what makes your heart happy and train it to not be dependent on other things.
#6. Avoid debts, wherever you can.
Nothing is more draining and humiliating than being in debt. Do your best to avoid unnecessary debts, only buy what you really need and can afford.
Try to stop any impulse buying, don’t buy things just to show them off, and don’t just buy things because all your friends are.it.
Yes, use your credit card wisely as well. Just because it gives you a short-term buzz and good feeling, doesn’t mean that you should misuse it.
As you know in the long run, it’s extremely stressful paying off credit card interest and debts.
So one thing I would recommend is to learn more about how to save money, cut costs, take advantage of a bargain when you can, and try to even learn how to make extra income which will all help you in being able to live a more comfortable life without incurring more debts.
#7. Kindness matters.
Be kind to other people, even if they are strangers – you never know, maybe they will return the favour and might help you out as well (it’s a small world after all).
What I realised is that kindness doesn’t need to be a huge act but what I actually learned was that those small gestures of kindness have really a big and positive impact on other people.
What's even more encouraging is that by being kind also boosts your genuine inner happiness as well. Being kind brings a mutual feeling of happiness.
What I want to ask you to do is practice small acts of kindness, practice each day, whenever you can, and it will start becoming natural to you over time.
I have a list of small acts of kindness. Check out this post here and see which ones you try out today!
Life is short, and life is now. Why not live it to the fullest?
Related Post. 40 random acts of kindness
#8. Learn to build your self-confidence, each and every day.
The right self-confidence can move mountains – help you overcome fear, get a promotion at work, salary increase, it will even help you build more meaningful friendships. Improve your life in general.
Over the years, I have been working on building my own self-confidence and my life has totally transformed, it has also been especially positive for my relationships as well.
You see, the one thing is that no one is born with confidence. It is something we learn as a as we grow from life and our experiences, it later becomes a skill.
So start working on your self-confidence now so that it can help you tackle hard times when they come.
I have an article here, my 5 best strategies that I use to boost my self-confidence. You can click here to read i boosted my self- confidence.
#9. Live a balanced life.
If you want to have a peaceful, happy life, then always create a time for everything in a balanced way… for instance, have a balance between work and your personal life…
So you are still working but also still experiencing other growth as well (not to mention, having fun from time to time!).
#10. Create good sleeping habits.
Getting enough sleep comes with more benefits such as improving your mood, strengthening your memory, and so much more!
On the other hand, lack of sleep begins with a lot of short terms side effects that can turn into long term ones like heart conditions, low libido, and you can continue reading to see other examples of sleep deprivation side effects.
So today, think about your sleeping habits… how are they? Do you get enough quality sleep? Here are some posts about sleeping habits.
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Give it a try, take risks and even if it doesn’t work out – at least you can say you gave it your best shot! Either way, you will learn from it and it might help you overcome the next hurdle.
Be a risk taker, sometimes we never try because we are afraid of losing something and if we never try, we never know if we are capable of accomplishing that task.
So get out there and take risks that are worth taking! Travel alone, change your job, move countries, get married, and the list goes on and on. You can only know what you are capable of, if you try.
#12. Spend your life with people that matter,
who both love and respect you. Life is way too short, so you better spend it with people that matter.
#13. Create some time do the things you love.
Some call it self-care others like referring to taking care of yourself…
To be honest, I could keep going, but it might start to seem strange! So I will keep it short so I don’t overwhelm you.
So I’ll end it here. If you have enjoyed the post and learnt something from it, please share with some other friends too. We all wanna become better right?
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