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Before I start, there are two important things that I want to stick in your mind before reading this post.
- Self-Confidence is something you can improve with practical steps.
- Self-Confidence can take you places you have never been before and make the unachievable achievable.
If I told you that nobody was born confident, would you believe me? Yes, it is true. Even your most daring and confident friend wasn’t born confident!
Ok, let me explain;
What is self-confidence and how to apply it?
So, you understand how the psychology game of confidence works.
Confidence is a skill that you can learn; thus, the saying, “no one was born confident.” By naming it as skill, it simply means that it is acquirable, and it is something that you, too, can improve if you want to.
But, there are important things that you should know before boosting your self-confidence. Building self-confidence requires you to have a positive attitude; so, be patient. It's a process that doesn't happen in just one day.
Lastly, it needs a commitment! Once you decide to improve your self-confidence, it means that you will work on it until you truly feel like a more confident person.
Even when you slip and fall, it means that you don't give up but keep on going!
So key three are things:
- Positive attitude
So how can you be a more confident person in life?
- With self-confidence, you can overcome fear.
- You do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence.
Dress nicely and comfortably.
Although it might seem shallow, the way we dress creates an impression about who we are. If you dress nicely, you will obviously feel good about yourself.
Feeling good about yourself brings a positive attitude that makes you more confident somehow! When you dress in uncomfortable clothes when you go out in public and you see people throwing glances at you, it causes you to develop some anxiety, which degrades your inner self-confidence.
To dress nicely doesn’t mean going to designer stores. It's the simple things that matter. Here is a quick guide on how to dress well for self-confidence:
- Dress appropriately for the season.
- Consider and dress for the occasion.
- Wear clothes that fit.
- Know the right shape.
- Know your personal style and taste.
The thing is, whether you like it or not, your clothes are the very first message that you send to people about the kind of person you are. So start watching how you dress. Use the tips above to guide!
Self-affirmations are positive and uplifting statements that we say to ourselves. Postive self-affirmations help to replace a negative thought like self-doubt with a positive thought.
For instance, if you have a presentation, just when you are about to start, you start having negative thoughts. You can't do it because of reasons 123.
At that moment, replacing that negative thought with a positive self-affirmation to something like “I can do this. I believe in my self!” can really work a miracle.
How? Repeating POSITIVE self-affirmations more frequently makes you recondition your brain and change how you feel and think about any situation.
As you see, positive self-affirmations can really help on many occasions. So what I want you to know today is that your mind is a very powerful thing. Use positive self-affirmations to turn a negative defeating situation with positive statements.
I have a post with a whole list of positive self-affirmations. Even you can download them.
Look after yourself.
Self-care is the most neglected underlooked thing in the millennial woman. We are so busy doing everything else and forget to look after our selves.
What we don't know is how important self-care is to everyday life. In this post, let's see how self-confidence relates to self-care.
Self-confidence depends on a combination of a few things, such as
- Emotional health,
- Social health,
- And physical health.
Self-care, in simple terms, means taking good care of yourself, physically, emotionally, and socially, all balanced in that order.
When you practice self-care, you tend to feel good about yourself; you will have your ideal weight, you will know what makes you happy and what doesn’t, and you will understand yourself more deeply. This will help you in knowing how to tackle challenges as well.
So look after yourself to help understand yourself better. Make time to exercise, meet friends, read, and practice all other examples of self-care you can read here.
Related post; 20 awesome ways to treat yourself.
Believe in yourself.
Like I said, later on, self-confidence is a skill; it can be acquired and improved. Well, one important thing is you have to believe in yourself and that you, too, are capable of doing ABC and that you can achieve your goals and dreams just like so and so does.
All you need is believe that you, too, can do it, and then form a strategic plan on how to go about it. So, today, I want you to start believing in yourself. Know that you, too, are capable of getting things done.
Stay near positivity.
Start by surrounding yourself with positive people who encourage your capabilities, bring out the best in you, and correct you when you are wrong.
Avoid people who discourage you, fake people, or those who put you down, whether they are friends or family. Just keep a distance from them.
Here is why.
Look at it this way. Where do you seek opinions? Where do compliments come from? Where do you ask for help? Definitely from them.
When they give you negative feedback, discourage you, really bring you down, make you feel worthless, and tell you to give up or quit whatever project you're doing, they lower your self-confidence.
However, if you take the alternative best approach to stay positive and stay close to positive thinkers, they will support you when you need positive support.
The bottom line in boosting your self-confidence.
The five habits above are the best you can start with when you want to boost your self-confidence. Choose which one, to begin with, and go for it.
They are all practical and doable. Just always remember that self-confidence is something that you learn to build up because of the challenging world of business and life, in general, can deflate it.
Happy self-confidence boosting!
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